I know that there are many women out there like myself who have been through a cancer scare, and been forced to have one or both breasts removed. For any woman this is an incredibly difficult time and one which can leave you lacking confidence, feeling like less of a woman and ultimately acts as a real shock to the system.
It was early last year that I went through reconstructive breast surgery, an operation which gave me a far more positive outlook on life. If you have been through a mastectomy or breast reconstructive surgery like myself, it can be difficult to feel like the confident and comfortable you again, but there are ways in which you can do it.
Clothing
Clothing plays a huge role in how comfortable you feel and getting the choice right, in light of your new shape, can be a big factor in getting the confident you back. Instead of looking at the clothes that you now can’t wear, it is far better to focus on the new styles and designs which you are able to wear. Another way to make yourself feel better is to go for a new bra fitting, there are some wonderful options to give you a fuller looking chest through using a variety of different bras. The key is to first focus on styles and designs, and then fill your wardrobe up with clothes which will bring that confidence back.
Speaking Out
One of the best ways in which you can get your confidence back after this kind of procedure is to be active in terms of speaking about it. Doing so with friends or family members who have not been through a mastectomy, may not always be the best choice and it will be far better to speak to those who have experience. With this inn mind, a great idea is to try and find some online forums where you can have a chat with those who have been though a similar experience to you. The beauty of joining a forum is that it is relatively anonymous and so you can speak freely about any fears or self esteem issues which you may be facing. The support and tips from women on these forums can be a great way to help you regain some of your confidence.
Speaking With Partner
Sexual activity can be a very difficult subject to approach after a mastectomy and it is important that you understand 2 things, firstly that there is no rush at all, and secondly that maintaining an open conversation with your partner is vital. The mastectomy will change many aspects of sexual relations and you will need to adapt, with this being said, a healthy sex life is more than achievable for anyone who has been through an operation such as this. Maintain your honesty and don’t rush, you will be just fine.
Your confidence will come back, it may just take some time.
